Before I had children, I had a more worldly view of tiny humans and motherhood. I think that society pushes us toward thinking of parenthood as a box to check on the list of life events that somehow measures our “success.” Children are fun, yes, but they are also a lot to handle, a handful, and a big responsibility. If not for two inspiring women in my life, I might still think this way.
One of those women is my best friend since childhood, Taylor, who I feel incredibly blessed to still have in my life after twelve years. One day she said something to me that rocked my world – she said, “I just feel like society paints children as such burdens, but the Bible is clear that children are blessings. The Bible does not ever describe children as burdens.”
I have to be honest – I don’t remember the details of the conversation surrounding this statement, but I will never forget those words. That day my entire mindset was changed. I hadn’t even realized that I, too, saw children as burdens to some extent, and Taylor unknowingly opened my eyes to the truth.
The other woman is my sister-in-law, Chelsea. She is a mother to four and a firm believer that children are absolute blessings. She makes decisions for her children’s lives that she believes are in their best interest and she does not look back. Though some of her decisions may be seen as controversial, she holds fast to them and defends them passionately.
She left her job to be able to stay at home with her kids, handles their schooling and nutrition, and instills in them firm morals. She has the most amazing children I know and her love of family is evident to anyone in her life. I have incredible respect for her and feel honored to be able to call her family.
When I became a mother to twins, I started really noticing how people think of children. The fact that my husband and I had not one, but TWO children at once created this pity for us in so many people’s minds – people we knew for years and total strangers alike. For the first several months I felt so defensive whenever someone made a negative comment about my girls.
The thing I came to realize is that most of the time, people didn’t think they were being negative. In their minds, the words they spoke were completely acceptable and even desired by my husband or myself. Spencer and I had several conversations behind closed doors about how to respond to these people.
To give you an example, one of the most frequent and unintentionally negative comments we hear is, “You have your hands full!” Our responses to this have evolved from sarcastic retorts to understanding compassion. We know people aren’t trying to be negative, so we don’t want to be rude when we respond. We want to share our Biblical mindset with them. So yes, we do have our hands full – full of blessings!
I’m starting this blog in hopes that I can inspire people to take on a Biblical mindset about parenthood and tiny humans. More than that, I am hoping to hold myself accountable to this mindset as time goes on and our family experiences all the highs and lows life will throw at us.
To anyone who chooses to follow our journey, I promise to be honest with you. I promise to celebrate the different ways we experience life. I promise not to judge you and your decisions, and I hope that you will say the same. I feel thankful for your support and I’m excited to live life with you.
Hello! I am a work-at-home mom to twin girls and a canine. I’m learning what life looks like when you surrender to God. Passionate about parenthood, marriage, and all things coffee!